The whole idea is of WE control and subordination.
The Christian way is to confess and ask for forgiveness. The repentance is manifest by the stopping of the practice of sin. See Romans 6th chapter.
If anyone was hurt other than yourself, it is good to ask for forgiveness from them to patch up things.
After confession and asking for giveness is done, turn it over to Christ, accept the forgiveness from God, forgive yourself and move on. It is in the pass. Hang on to it and Satan might start to play with it.
Bottom line is that unless have accept Christ in you heart and become born again, you're dead anyway.